(Late reflections for Mother’s Day)
Of all the made-up commercial holidays, Mother’s Day, for me, is the least irritating. After all, if I was going to be guilted into blowing money on cards, flowers, and the obligatory brunch, at least it was going to be for Mom. So to moms everywhere, y’all rock.
And this goes double for the moms we do not celebrate on Mother’s Day — the ones who get painted as fiscally and sexually irresponsible, the deviant mothers who are subjected to discipline and sanction.
For decades, the deviant mother has served as a convenient scapegoat for state ills. As Anna Marie Smith has observed, “the State lays the blame for poverty at the door of the deviant mother who is ideologically constructed as black, heterosexual, unmarried, and sexually precocious.” These are the mothers who are somehow painted as undeserving.